Support Guide

Supporting Your Loved One

Learn how to recognize warning signs, have meaningful conversations, and provide effective support for someone you care about.

Your Support Matters

Supporting someone with mental health challenges can be both rewarding and challenging. Your care and understanding can make a significant difference in their recovery journey. Remember, you don't have to be a professional to provide meaningful support.

Recognizing Warning Signs

Emotional Changes

  • Persistent sadness or hopelessness
  • Extreme mood swings
  • Increased irritability or anger
  • Loss of interest in activities
  • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt

Behavioral Changes

  • Withdrawal from friends and family
  • Changes in sleep patterns
  • Neglecting personal hygiene
  • Increased use of alcohol or drugs
  • Reckless or dangerous behavior

Physical Changes

  • Significant weight loss or gain
  • Frequent headaches or body aches
  • Chronic fatigue or low energy
  • Changes in appetite
  • Unexplained physical complaints

How to Start the Conversation

1

Choose the Right Time and Place

Find a private, comfortable setting when you both have time to talk without distractions.

2

Use 'I' Statements

Express your concerns using 'I' statements like 'I've noticed you seem stressed lately' rather than 'You always seem upset.'

3

Listen Without Judgment

Give them space to share their feelings without trying to fix everything or offering unsolicited advice.

4

Avoid Minimizing Their Feelings

Don't say things like 'just think positive' or 'others have it worse.' Validate their experience.

5

Offer Specific Support

Instead of 'let me know if you need anything,' offer specific help like 'Can I help you find a therapist?'

6

Follow Up

Check in regularly and continue the conversation. Mental health support is an ongoing process.

Helpful Things to Say

  • •"I'm here for you"
  • •"You're not alone in this"
  • •"It's okay to not be okay"
  • •"How can I best support you?"
  • •"Would you like to talk about it?"
  • •"I believe in your strength"

Things to Avoid Saying

  • •"Just think positive"
  • •"Others have it worse"
  • •"You just need to get over it"
  • •"It's all in your head"
  • •"You don't look depressed"
  • •"Just snap out of it"

Taking Care of Yourself

Supporting someone with mental health challenges can be emotionally draining. It's important to take care of your own mental health too.

Self-Care Strategies

  • Set healthy boundaries
  • Maintain your own social connections
  • Practice stress-reduction techniques
  • Get enough sleep and exercise
  • Consider counseling for yourself

When to Seek Help

  • You feel overwhelmed or burned out
  • Your own mental health is suffering
  • You're unsure how to help
  • The situation feels dangerous
  • You need professional guidance

Find Professional Help

Help your loved one find qualified mental health professionals in your area.

Get Support for Yourself

Connect with other caregivers and get the support you need too.

Crisis Situations

If your loved one is in immediate danger or having thoughts of self-harm, don't wait. Get help immediately.